Sunday, March 17, 2013

Is Marriage the ultimate goal?

Today, I was watching a rom-com and it occurred to me that why marriage always is thought of as the only goal in a woman's life? Why isn't her career given as much importance?

Often in movies, there is a woman who is desperate for a husband and a guy who is absolutely tailor-made for her, they bump into each other, don't like each other at first and then fall hopelessly in love. Also, these days the term "emotionally damaged" is like the new in thing in rom-coms. I'm not against love or marriages but I simply ask why do you need a certificate for your love? Why can't it be just companionship? Or why doesn't a girl choose who she is over who she loves? Am not "I" equally important? 

Even while growing up, the whole concept of marriage is introduced to kids in a much gloried manner. Fairy tales endorse the promise of marital bliss. Toys such as many dolls come in pairs. Girls grow up with dreams of walking down the altar in big white dress. Why aren't they raised with the dream of being a successful being? Why aren’t they encouraged to find themselves and their place in the world?  Why is everyone in a rat race for finding their happily-ever-after???


  1. I think the problem is that it is force-fed to individuals since birth as a cultural standard. I agree that marriage is not the sole aim of many women now and for the media to constantly perpetuate that idea is completely ridiculous.

  2. Who says getting married means you can't be successful or find yourself? The concept of marriage is a beautiful thing. Honestly, in this day and age, I think marriage is being more and more discarded. That piece of paper that says your married is a symbol of your commitment.

    And the career? I think it's important for women to be educated and to be ready and prepared, but what is going to bring you greater happiness? A career or a family? The family is the basic unit of society for a reason. And every time it starts breaking down, the world gets more chaotic. I mean, we live as families for a reason.

    There needs to be a balance between the two. I truly believe there is nothing wrong with a career but it doesn't have to be a career/education or a family/marriage.

  3. I totally agree.Marriage is important but there are other things worth your attention in life.There are bigger worries than love.And marriage should not be deemed as an end.Rather its a beginning.Nice blog btw and I am following it.Hope you will follow back at

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  4. As the next generation coming through to have kids I hope we can teach our kids life skills first.