In my last post, "Is Marriage the Ultimate goal?", I talked about how I feel that marriage shouldn't be the ultimate goal of a women's life. While reading today, I came across this article by Urvashi Butalia.
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Today, I was watching a rom-com and it occurred to me that why marriage always is thought of as the only goal in a woman's life? Why isn't her career given as much importance?
Often in movies, there is a woman who is desperate for a husband and a guy who is absolutely tailor-made for her, they bump into each other, don't like each other at first and then fall hopelessly in love. Also, these days the term "emotionally damaged" is like the new in thing in rom-coms. I'm not against love or marriages but I simply ask why do you need a certificate for your love? Why can't it be just companionship? Or why doesn't a girl choose who she is over who she loves? Am not "I" equally important?
Even while growing up, the whole concept of marriage is introduced to kids in a much gloried manner. Fairy tales endorse the promise of marital bliss. Toys such as many dolls come in pairs. Girls grow up with dreams of walking down the altar in big white dress. Why aren't they raised with the dream of being a successful being? Why aren’t they encouraged to find themselves and their place in the world? Why is everyone in a rat race for finding their happily-ever-after???
Posted by Felicia at 8:42 AM